Kai Cole and the Ideal Joss

I am seeing far too many people dismissing Kai Cole's revelations as the rantings of an angry divorcee. Women are vindictive bitches, am I right?

I'm seeing far too many people accepting Kai's revelations but then dismissing them because Joss is "only human". Boys will be boys, am I right?

Never mind all the people who want to know who Joss supposedly slept with!

Stop. Just stop right there. What are you all doing?! Is that what your idea of Feminist Joss, Joss the Ally, would say you should do? Ignore a woman? Belittle her experience? Tell her she's a liar? Claim manipulating young starlets into having sex with a man who has power over their career is the same as consensual adultery?

Sure, there are many who never saw Joss as a feminist, who never saw anything empowering in his work. And oh how they are laughing now (not helping, folks, really not helping). But you? You thought he was a feminist. A flawed one, one with really crappy intersectionality, but at the very least he was an ally.

You thought he was telling you to respect yourself, respect other women, to lift each other up, to be there for each other, to stand up for each other, and to believe in each other.

Well do that. Do what Ideal Joss would want you to. Respect Kai Cole (use her name, folks, she's not just "his ex-wife"). Lift Kai up. Believe her and be there for her; stand up for her when she can't.

Let's say to Joss "we expected better of you, man. You tried to show us all these terrible men and said we should avoid them. You tried to show us the cruelty of not believing women, of siding with the men who hurt them. You tried to show us that we should hold men to higher standards than society said was okay. Well, we were paying attention. We're going to stand by Kai."

I stand by Kai Cole. Ironically, that's what Joss said was the right thing to do.

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